What to say when you don’t know what to say

You know, I don’t really feel like writing. It’s late. I’m tired. I want to go to bed.

But, you know, I’m kind of in a routine here. I write every day. So here I am, writing.

I ask myself, “What should I talk about? I’m too tired to compose what I actually wanted to share. That would be too much work right now. So what should I share instead?”

Share what you’re feeling.

It’s kind of sad that that’s a last resort. Not that we should go around blabbing every stupid¬†inkling we get in our gut, but – you know – maybe a little more honesty. It’s really all you have.

  • If you’re scared, say so.
  • If you’re tired, say so.
  • If you’re hurting, say so.
  • If you need someone to pray for you… or someone to answer your prayer, say so.

The content doesn’t matter as much as the motivation. And talking about feelings is probably the best way to get at motivations. They’re the real connectors, the real conversations.

So, you know, share how you feel.

Then lean across the table and ask how they feel. Because once you share, they won’t be so scared to.

So listen.

And care.