What surprised me when I announced the adoption fund

When I announced that I was going to adopt, that I was raising money for it, I got a lot of responses. Many of them, I expected. Many of them, I didn’t.

One of the ones I didn’t expect was the sheer amount of responses that started with, “I don’t know if you feel comfortable answering this…”

I knew some of the questions and comments might feel awkward. I knew that would go with the territory. I didn’t realize, though, that just about every time someone brought up the topic, they would feel the need to apologize for it.

I appreciate the concern. I like that my friends and acquaintances want to ease into the conversation carefully. I admire that.

What surprised me, though, was just how taboo the whole conversation felt. Part of the motivation behind raising money for the adoption was to open up the conversation – I knew it felt quiet. So I felt even more surprised when, knowing that it would be weird, it felt even weirder than I anticipated.