Security vs. excitement

Picking up from yesterday’s post, I’d like to say something mentioned on facebook yesterday.

For me, happiness = excitement. Perhaps for many women, happiness = security (or more accurately, feeling secure).

I’m most happy when I’m excited. Sometimes that excitement comes from subtle things like reading a book or someone saying they love me. Sometimes that excitement comes from outrageous things like Gatlinburg trips.

Like I said yesterday, I think women are most happy when they feel secure. That security can come from different things, say family or friendships for example.

So while I pursue excitement, women pursue security. That’s a rub, but it’s not necessarily a complete deal breaker because I don’t think security and excitement are mutually exclusive.

I think I can feel totally excited while feeling totally secure. It’s the same feeling I get when I’m in complete control on a wild ride. It’s the same feeling I get when I’m giving a speech (even when I don’t feel in complete control). It’s the same feeling I get when I start talking to someone amazing.

But I think the pursuit might cause more problems. I think it might be difficult to pursue excitement while pursuing security (or the other way around). I don’t know if that makes any sense. What I’m trying to say is that while excitement and security might occur together, it’s difficult to make them both happen deliberately. Right now anyway, I don’t know how to deliberately pursue both.

So I have some options. I can try to find a way to pursue both excitement and security. Perhaps a better option, though, would be to pursue security. Maybe while I pursue it, I’ll find a way to add excitement to it.

How do you feel about this? Can excitement and security go together? Can I pursue both? (And if so, how?)

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