Love while you can

Once upon a time, I had this dog. His name was Diego. One day, though, I had to give him away because he bit my mom. That was a tough day for me. After writing about this here, my mom noted that I haven’t gotten close to any animals since then.

The feelings are gone now. I don’t have the passion to pursue those relationships as much anymore. Maybe someday, but someday rarely comes.

Once upon a time, I had a friend who introduced me to Legos. His name was Bryce. Once day, though, he had to move away because his dad was in the military. That was a tough day for me. Even though I’ve seen him since then, we’re not close anymore. I haven’t kept in contact well.

The feelings are gone now. I don’t have the passion to pursue those relationships as much anymore. Maybe someday, but someday rarely comes.

Once upon a time, I moved to Korea. I made friends, lots of friends, deep friends. There names are embedded in my memory and a bunch of Facebook and Skype conversations. One day, though, I’ll move away, and probably won’t see many of them again. That will be a tough day.

The feelings will fade in the years to come. I won’t have the passion to pursue those relationships as much anymore. Maybe someday again, but someday rarely comes.

Once upon a time, C. S. Lewis wrote:

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket – safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”

This applies to the friends and family I left in America before moving to Korea. It applies to the announcement I made in Korea about my intentions to adopt. And it applies to the young ladies I’ve considered staying in Korea to pursue.

The feelings will fade in the years to come. I won’t have the passion to pursue those relationships as much anymore. Maybe someday again, but someday rarely comes.

Current passion is a current of passion: it will wash away soon. Love while you can. It’s the only time you ever will.

“Treasure each other in the recognition that we do not know how long we shall have each other.” -Joshua Loth Liebman