Blog posts are like gravestones

Just the because the gravestones are still there, doesn’t mean they’re lasting forever.

I’ve written a lot here. Over 1,500 posts now.

I used to think this body of work would end up being part of my legacy, that people after me would be able to read these words years after I die.

In reality, I doubt many people will read this after I die. Most of my closest friends don’t read it now. Why would strangers suddenly read it years after I’m out of here?

I used to think this would be bad. I wanted people to read this for ages.

But that’s like those gravestones. Just because they’re there, out there in the world, available for people to see, doesn’t mean anyone will.

Instead, what lasts is what makes an impact, what makes change, what affects souls.

The gravestones don’t do that. Hopefully, the people they represent did.

Hopefully, the words and ideas represented here will.

Replacing habits

The key to getting better is building better habits.

When you’re young, it doesn’t matter as much which you replace, because most of what you do is stupid. As long as you’re introducing good habits, you’re fine.

As you get older, you have to be more careful. The space you fill with new habits pushes out existing habits. You have to be careful you’re not pushing out good habits. Otherwise, you’re trading good habits, not building them.

The key is to keep the good habits and trade out the bad ones. This seems obvious in print but can be a real challenge in practice. Time is full. Respect that. Replace on purpose.

Seeing habits

I don’t know how I missed this my whole life, but those garments that nuns wear, those black and white uniforms, are called habits.

Now, I don’t know about you, but I certainly couldn’t pick a nun out of crowd unless she was wearing her habit. To me, the habit is the single most recognizable part of a nun.

For nuns, though, I bet they’d say that’s not what defines them. I bet they’d say that what defines them is their beliefs, really, their motives for why they do what they do, why they devote their lives to God the way they do, why they’re compassionate, why they live separately, why their wear the habits.

But we, most of us, I imagine, just see the habits.

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