4 marks of maturity
From observation rather than experience, this is what I think distinguishes mature people from the rest of us:
- They suspend judgment of people. We like to automatically evaluate: Do I want to be like that person? Should I believe this? Instead, mature people spend time observing other people trying to understand them. They don’t immediately evaluate whether or not they want to copy them. They just focus on their motives, why they do what they do and why they are what they are.
- They decide on purpose. Everyone makes decisions, but the most popular choice is indifference. Not many of us make decisions on purpose, but I think mature people do. Mature people can answer the questions, Why do you do that? Why do you believe that? They know their purpose, and their purpose drives their decisions.
- They take responsibility. The mature ones are the ones always thinking, I could do something about this. I should do something about this. It’s me doing it or no one. And then they actually follow through with it. Perhaps most remarkable, mature people like to take responsibility even if they seem to have no control over the situation. They live with the mindset regardless of the situation.
- They live for other people. They cut the selfishness. They dedicate their lives to making other people better off. Sometimes that means giving. Other times that means living a life that’s encouraging. Either way, their lives are oriented around others because they’ve more interested in them than themselves. (Actually, I think this fourth one is what maturity is all about. The first three are just the build up for actually pulling off this last one.)
“Maturity is that time when the mirrors in our mind turn to windows and instead of seeing the reflection of ourselves we see others.” -Unknown
But what else would you add?